How is your marriage?  Is it just good enough?  On a scale from 1 to 10 (1 being miserable and 10 being awesome) where would you rank your marriage today? Think seriously about these questions because they are important to the overall satisfaction of your marriage.  If you do not know where you are, how will you ever get anywhere?  Couples do not ask each other enough where their marriage is on a scale from 1 to 10.

No matter where your rank is, do not panic, just take note of the score and then ask what needs to happen for the marriage to get better.  You are your own marriage manual and only you know what it will take to improve the marriage for you.  So ask yourself how it’s going and then do something about it.  Stop waiting for your spouse to change, do some changing on your own and see how that impacts your marriage.  Why sit on the sideline when you can be in the game of becoming the kind of spouse you want to be married to.