Many men don’t realize it, but more than 80 percent of a woman’s need for meaningful touch is nonsexual. Sex does not begin in the bedroom. It actually starts in the everyday acts of truthfulness, consistency, kindness, touching, and talking that build a growing desire in a woman.

No one can long ignore considerate, loving actions. Make your mate feel special and you increase his or her desire to do the same for you.

Genuine love doesn’t necessarily spring from feelings. Its basis is primarily a concern for the welfare of another. Although the feelings of affection will follow, genuine love is initially an action directed toward fulfilling an- other person’s needs. Persistent love—like the dripping of water on a rock can wear away a person’s resistance. It’s nearly impossible to stay angry with or emotionally distant from someone who unconditionally loves and values you.

So many men and women treat each other as objects to be used. They may not verbalize it, but they maintain an inward conviction that their mate should do things that have never been discussed. This is like steadily pouring acid on intimacy. From time to time, my wife and I get together on a date, for breakfast out or just a retreat from home. During that time, we list our personal goals and com- mit ourselves to helping each other fulfill those desires. I feel so satisfied knowing that my wife is committed enough to sacrifice for my goals and that I have the same commitment toward her.

True happiness comes by reaching out to others with a desire for them to feel love from us.

One way intimacy is blocked is when lives are filled with unhealthy behavior, poor health choices or sexual addictions that affect our daily conduct. To change those habits and addictions, we should first recognize our mistakes and admit when we’re at fault. Second, we must keep an attitude of wanting to improve. Third, we should share our feelings and needs with our mate and seek his or her understanding and support.

Keeping your written relationship menu posted in a prominent household location provides a continual reminder of which values and rules you’re working toward. It generally takes about 30 days to start a new habit. So if you’re regularly working on attaining your goals, it will only take a month before you notice significant changes in your relationship.

4 ways of building intimacy:

1. Stop waiting for things to get better —make a decision to work on them.
2. Acquire and practice new attitudes and skills that lead to fulfilling relation- ships.
3. Commit to changing your own be- haviors first, without expecting your partner to change his or hers.
4. Support each other in your efforts so that neither of you feels alone or inferior.

1. Become gentle; demonstrate tenderheartedness.
2. Understand what the other person has gone through, listening carefully not only to what is said, but also to how it is said. What has caused the anger?
3. Acknowledge that the person is hurting, and admit when you have been offensive.
4. Touch the other person gently.
5. Ask for forgiveness.

Are you still hesitating to knock down old walls of anger and put in a doorway of tenderness to your home a door that opens to energizing words, gentle touching, and courageous forgiving?

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Here’s a working list of Jesus’ Commands:

This is a list I’ve (Gary) found that really helped me start meditating and memorizing Jesus’ commands…

• Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve (Mt.4:10).
• Repent (Mt.4:17).
• Follow me (Mt.4:19).
• Rejoice when you are persecuted (Mt.5:12).
• Let your light shine before men (Mt.5:16).
• Don’t break or despise even the least of God’s commandments (Mt.5:19).
• Don’t be angry with your brother (Mt.5:22).
• Be reconciled with your neighbor before approaching God in worship (Mt.5:24).
• Don’t look at a woman to lust for her (Mt.5:28).
• Be radical in resisting sin (cutting off the right hand) (Mt.5:30).
• Don’t swear frivolously (Mt.5:34).
• Be meek; don’t seek your rights (Mt.5:38-40).
• Love your enemy (Mt.5:44).
• Bless those who curse you (Mt.5:44).
• Do good to those who hate you (Mt.5:44).
• Pray for your abusers (Mt.5:44).
• Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect (Mt.5:48).
• Don’t be a show-off in your profession of faith (Mt.6:1ff.).
• Don’t be short-sighted in storing up your treasures: think of the after-life (Mt.6:19-21).
• Be wholly devoted in your service to God (Mt.6:24).
• Don’t worry; don’t be anxious (Mt.6:25ff.).
• Don’t be judgmental and censorious (Mt.7:1ff.).
• Don’t give what is holy to the dogs (Mt.7:6).
• Pray fervently and persistently (Mt.7:7ff.).
• Whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them (Mt.7:12).
• Seek salvation God’s way: enter by the narrow way (Mt.7:13).
• Take heed of false prophets (Mt.7:15).
• Test the false prophets by their works, and by whether their doctrine accords with Scripture (Mt.7:16ff.).
• Don’t just listen to my teaching: obey it and do it (Mt.7:24ff.).
• Be concerned about missions (Mt.9:37,38).
• Confess me before men (Mt.10:32).
• Be willing to lose your life for my sake (Mt.10:39).
• Don’t be offended because of me (Mt.11:4-6).
• Take my yoke upon you and learn of me (Mt.11:29).
• Take heed of your speech (Mt.12:36).
• Don’t add tradition or anything else to the Word of God (Mt.15:1-9).
• Beware of hypocrisy (Mt.16:5).
• Practice self-denial (Mt.16:24).
• Take up the cross (Mt.16:24).
• Humble yourself (Mt.18:4,5).
• Be careful not to offend the least of believers (Mt.18:6,7).
• Take heed that you do not despise one of these little ones (Mt.18:10).
• Practice healthy and loving church discipline (Mt.18:15-20).
• Forgive everyone at all times and at every occasion for whatever offenses he commits against you (Mt.18:21ff.).
• Don’t divorce your wife (Mt.19:1ff.).
• Let the little children come to me (Mt.19:13).
• Obey the Ten Commandments (Mt.19:16-22).
• Don’t profane divine ordinances (Mt.21:12-13).
• Have faith in God; do not doubt Him (Mt.21:21,22).
• Render to Caesar his due and to God His due (Mt.22:21).
• Love the Lord your God with all your being (Mt.22:37,38).
• Love all fellow-men as you love yourself (Mt.22:39).
• Observe the Supper in my remembrance (Mt.26:26-29).
• Don’t tempt God (Mt. 4:7)

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