You could say that perfectionism is a crime against humanity. Adaptability is the characteristic that enables the species to survive—and if there’s one thing perfectionism does, it rigidifies behavior. It constricts people just when the fast-moving world requires more flexibility and comfort with ambiguity than ever. It turns people into success slaves. Perfectionists, experts now [...]
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Modern Love – Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear
LET’S say you have what you believe to be a healthy marriage. You’re still friends and lovers after spending more than half of your lives together.
Who should be more important – my spouse or the kids?
THE QUESTION: In a family, who should have the higher priority- the spouse relationship or the kids? And why? Is there Scripture about this? I know in the grand scheme of things I will be with my spouse longer, but the kids’ needs are more time sensitive, so to speak as we only have them [...]
The Smalley kids make the show here in NYC!
All we wanted to do was get from the Subway station at Bowling Green to the free Staten Island Ferry so we could see the Statue of Liberty. Â As we headed across Battery Park we got held up by three guys as they began their show. Â Their acrobats and dancing were incredible, but the finale [...]
Kids Can Make a Beautiful Marriage Ugly
The birth of children has an immediate negative impact on even blissfully happy couples, raising stress and reducing satisfaction levels of husbands and wives, new research says. Reasons for the negative toll kids take on marriage vary between men and women, but researchers say satisfaction levels start dropping as soon as children are born. The [...]
A great article on cutting away the bad from your marriage
What a great article and reminder for a healthy marriage: This past weekend my wife and I traveled to Florida for a family wedding with our two kids, ages 1 and 3, in tow. Admittedly, before the trip we were both apprehensive. Would we be asked to get off the plane at one of our [...]
How Much Privacy Should Parent’s Grant Kids’ Digital Life?
DadTalk: How Much Privacy Should Parent’s Grant Kids’ Digital Life? Scenario: Your 13-year-old daughter comes home from school, runs crying up to her bedroom with cell phone in hand. Do you: 1. Go up and talk to your daughter but don’t ask to see the message on the phone. 2. Demand to see the messages [...]
When your kid freaks out
All I wanted to do was help my 9 year-old daughter learn her spelling, but judging by her reaction, you would think I was trying to help someone rip the fingernails from her tiny hands! Conflict comes in many ways, reasons, and circumstances. They key to conflict with your kids is to maintain your own [...]