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The role of a husband in marriage is important, but what do you think is the primary role of a husband? Read Ephesians 5:21-33 before you answer this week’s poll question (New Living Translation):

Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.t 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body.

31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”t 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Now let me know what you think by answering this week’s poll. Also, please leave any comments you might have. I always love a good discussion!

We are getting ready to launch a new marriage live event and curriculum series, but we need your help! Below is a survey with 4 possible titles, please choose the title you think is best for our new live event and curriculum series. If you don’t like any of them, or want to tweak one of them slightly, feel free to click on the link that reads “Add an Answer” and then enter one of your own titles.

In one week we will choose a winner who will receive the live event DVD series! So good luck and happy voting

Here is a sampling of some of the topics that will be covered in the new seminar and curriculum series:

Renewing Spirituality
Learn to respect each other’s spiritual differences to connect on a spiritual level and grow closer together like never before.
Anger
Learn how to communicate in your anger and open up the heart of someone you’ve wounded through anger.
Dealing with Expectations
Learn how to fulfill expectations in a way that actually honors your relationship instead of stressing it out!
Redefining Men & Women
Learn the real difference between men and women, how these affect your relationship, and how to become one despite your differences. You will discover why men need to be admired and successful and women want to be valued and cared for.

Do you know how important it is to date your mate? Probably not, because too few couples actually take the time to date! I’m tired of meeting with couples in my counseling office and hearing the same old story to the following question, “When was the last time you took your spouse out on a date?”

The answers are varied but all of them point to the same problem…too many couples fall into the trap of datelessness.  If you want to have a happy marriage than you must spend fun time together.  Make it a priority to spend at least one night a week together having fun.

This doesn’t have to cost you any money, so all the cheap scates out there can just sit down and relax A date night can consist of putting the kids down early and sitting out on the back porch and simply talking and laughing, or watching your favorite show together while snuggling on the couch.

The most important thing is that you put it on your schedule or it won’t ever happen!