My heart aches as I begin to write. I’m so weary of hearing about all the women and the deception of Tiger Woods. I want to make it all go away and go back to my former view of him. I liked him! My son loved him, tried to mimic is golf swing and wear his Nike hat etc.. He appeared to have a great family, a great upbringing. His dad devoted his life to him, for goodness sake. How could this happen? I think we are all scratching our heads wondering what is going on?

The personal pain of the Tiger Woods and his family hits home to so many Michael and I come into contact with. I have seen the hurt in the wife’s eyes as she realizes the reality she once lived in was a lie. I’m not sure how to deal with it. I have to be honest, I asked Michael, “Are you living some other life I don’t know about?” I was half kidding but I was still questioning it too. I think I know Michael more than anyone else. I think I know his hurts, what he likes, what he doesn’t like, but I’m not in his mind. I don’t know what thoughts Satan tries to put into his head. To his credit Michael’s response was… of course funny… but reassuring. He, after cracking a joke first, did look me in the eyes and say, “No I’m not having an affair.” Sometimes I just need that security said out loud. You can say I’m over emotional, insecure, or whatever but to know that I can ask my husband an important question like that and he not become defensive, but humor me and validate why I might be questioning any man’s loyalty right now was comforting.

I think we can brush this off as too much money, too many women throwing themselves at Tiger, or too much fame, but I want to take the opportunity to challenge myself and my marriage. Will you do the same? I do not want to instigate fear and insecurity but I do want to learn how to listen to Michael in a better way. The only way to prevent this type of situation from happening is to draw closer to God and closer as couple, because we are all vulnerable.

Listening, really listening, takes a great deal of effort. Because Michael and I are so different every time he has something going on that’s really big I have to literally step outside myself and put myself in his shoes, the way he wears them. He cares about things but not in the same way I do. If you haven’t noticed social norms are not a priority to him. He wants to succeed on his terms and it makes it difficult for me to identify with him many times because he doesn’t feel the way I do. I am challenged continually to look at the world through his eyes. And I’m so thankful because I don’t want to see things only from one perspective. Michael’s world has so much color, noise, and excitement! If I didn’t appreciate that about him it would drive us apart and I wouldn’t care about listening to him.

Compassion means going to the depths of whatever the other person is feeling. I’m so glad I can have an honest and understanding conversation with my spouse about a current trial and feel I’m met with the same. If you don’t feel like you are being understood or over looked please seek the great Counselor first then maybe one of us. I have the privilege of meeting with people who are truly struggling to bind themselves to Christ in the middle of troubling marriages and divorces and I believe I can testify for them in this, without Christ they wouldn’t be making it! There is a strength and humility that comes when we draw ourselves to Christ. The blessed assurance of Christ sets us free indeed, no matter what.